The Spark

I had known him since I was 12, back when he had a huge crush on my sister. I remember sitting in the living room at my mom and step dad's house, shy as all can be, watching the two of them flirt together. He kept making jokes about me, I felt at the time it was because it was making my sister laugh a lot. The jokes hurt, but I had learned early not to let them bother me. 

Fast forward to when I was 19, and we met again. I hadn't seen him since I was 12, and I had grown a lot since then. I was at the end of my 'high school relationship'. We had been non stop fighting and we both knew it was over, just neither of us had said the words. 
My step dad at the the time had cancer, and he told me that his friend Kerry and his son Kody were coming from Idaho to visit, where they have lived for the past 6 years. I guess his grandpa passed away and they were coming down for his funeral. 
For some reason, I wanted to make it my mission for him to notice me before my sister (even though Cassie was happily taken at the time). I remember going to great lengths to plan my outift. I wore short shorts, black with color splatters all over them, and a low cut (and I mean LOW) shirt with color on it. I put my hair in my signature style, pigtails, and made sure my makeup was on point. 
He showed up. I remember the first thing I noticed was his arms. They were so long, and his hug was warm. I felt like I could be hugged by him for forever. We had a BBQ and played card games. Joking around and laughing. Having a good time. Cassie left and he stayed behind. We all went to the hot tub. I silently flirted since my mom and step dad were there. That would have been weird, but when they left I kicked it up a notch and I could tell it was working. He kept trying to get closer to me, and touch my arm and I kept playfully moving away. I felt sparks, which was new to me. I had never felt them before. He asked to stay the night and we made a fun time of it.
My mom and step dad stayed locked in the room and he and I watched movies in the living room. We watch Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire, and then we watched my 'bible' as I called it back then, Monty Python and the Holy Grail. 
He kissed me first, it was awkward and I still remember the taste. He was very fumbled he kept telling me he hadn't done anything with anyone in 6 plus months, it didn't bother me though. 
We moved to my room for a 15 second round on my floor. He apologized a lot. I didn't mind it. Sex had never really done anything for me before, it was mostly just something I partook in for the guy back then. 
I remember going to sleep though, my lips still tingling. He slept in the room next door. I had to wake him the next morning because he had a flight to catch, and I went in and didn't know how to wake him. Was he mad in the morning? Was he a heavy sleeper? So I did the only thing I could think of and I tickled his foot. He woke up instantly. 
We both agreed a relationship wasn't happening. He had to go back to Idaho and I had obligations at home. We agreed to stay friends and added each other on social media and texted. 
I think my first red flag, should have been when my sister the next day told me, he tried to kiss her. See he came back that night and she had taken him back to where he was staying. And she claims in the car he tried to kiss her, and made it super awkward. I shrugged it off as being nothing, why would he? He had just slept with me earlier that day. I thought maybe she said it for attention, as that was who I thought she was back then. Little did I know, I should have listened to her. 

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