Tuesday, August 15, 2017
We met at the YMCA as per our agreement for drop off of Kendrick for visitation.
At arrival, I handed him Kendrick and then proceeded to shut my car doors and prepare to leave when he turned around as I was getting into my car and said "you're not going to let me say goodbye to the kids?" and I told him why, he would see them in two hours I needed to get home and I didn't want to speak to him. He made a rude remark about it so I reluctantly opened the sliding door (which is automatic not manual) and allowed him to say hi to Natus and Avalon. He made some remark about how I 'refused' him visitation on Monday morning, and I reminded him that he had taken Avalon and Natus for his 4 hour on Sunday, but that he couldn't do the full visit and I wasn't ok with splitting up the four hour that way, and that it wasn't allowed as it wasn't in the agreement. He claimed that his lawyer said that he could because the agreement never said he couldn't, and I reminded him that the agreement is what it says and what it says only and that if it isn't in there, it's not allowed.
He then pressed the door close button and then grabbed the handle to forcibly pull the door shut (which could break that kind of door) and I rolled my window down and let him know that if he broke my car he would have to pay to have it fixed.
He then proceeded to say "go fuck yourself" to which I said "same to you" and as I was rolling my window up he stood up from his car and spat onto my window. And then sped off with Kendrick in his car not buckled.
At 330, we met to pick Kendrick up and for him to take Avalon and Natus. He refused to put either into his car until we spoke and said I wasn't being reasonable about visits and I explained that it wasn't to the agreement. And offered other solutions for the issue at hand. To which he declined. I noticed at this time that he had two hickies on his neck, and as he was putting our daughter in, I said without thinking first "I hope you're not bringing random girls around our kids"
To which he asked what I had said because he couldn't hear me. I refused to reply and got into my car and shut the doors and went to leave, as I went to exit from the parking lot he sped out and parked his car in front of mine, preventing me from going further and he got out and came over to me. I was immediately on guard and afraid as he had just spat at me hours previous.
I had sent him a text and he was commenting on that because I mentioned what exactly I said to him as I was leaving. And that's what he was confronting me on.
He claimed that I was a horrible mother, that he didn't like me, I was lazy, he did everything for me and I was never grateful that I never cared for the kids. That he never loved me. I commented on how he wouldn't even let me heal from my c section because of an ingrown nail and that I almost bleed out one night and tore my stitches anouther, he claimed he only needed a day to recover and then he'd be fine. But that i refused to give him that (I was five days post surgery) and I gave him 3 weeks. When I mentioned that he never did anything except play games and most of our fights revolved around that he got defensive and started attacking my boyfriend, Gionni, and called him the N word and claimed I was a whore, and that my vagina was nasty.
I barked back at that point and told him that at least my bf knew how to do foreplay unlinke him, he retorted with that I wasn't worth his time and that's why he never did it. I told him he'd be hearing from my lawyer because I was sick of being attacked and he spat on my car, and he claimed that he never did and I have no proof and no one would believe me. Even though I called my lawyer minutes after it happened, and had spit marks on my car.
I had a PTSD and anxiety flare up on my way home. My boyfriend heard a lot of the commotion.
At pick up ay 730, I got out to get the kids and he refused to give me Avalon, until I spoke to him, I refused and said if he needed to he could email me what he'd like tot alk about, otherwise it wasn't worth mentioning. He said no, because whenever I wanted to talk, he always 'had' to. I explained that I had a ptsd flare up and na anxiety attack, on my way home and had multiple over the past week because of him and that I was done talking to him about any of this because my mental health couldn't take it anymore. I explained I did not want him touching my car or talking to me at pick up and drop off anymore, and that if he would like to email me he could. He still refused to give me avalon, but I managed to get her to reach for me and took her from him. He angrily got in his car, made a remark about me being ridiculous. And drove off.
I then texted him saying 'When you dont have the kids, your number is blocked. You are not to touch my car or be near my car at pick up, you are not to talk to me at all. Anything can be done via email or text when you have the kids. That I was done talking I would see him at 130 tomorrow" I then blocked his number so as to not get any kind of a response.
At arrival, I handed him Kendrick and then proceeded to shut my car doors and prepare to leave when he turned around as I was getting into my car and said "you're not going to let me say goodbye to the kids?" and I told him why, he would see them in two hours I needed to get home and I didn't want to speak to him. He made a rude remark about it so I reluctantly opened the sliding door (which is automatic not manual) and allowed him to say hi to Natus and Avalon. He made some remark about how I 'refused' him visitation on Monday morning, and I reminded him that he had taken Avalon and Natus for his 4 hour on Sunday, but that he couldn't do the full visit and I wasn't ok with splitting up the four hour that way, and that it wasn't allowed as it wasn't in the agreement. He claimed that his lawyer said that he could because the agreement never said he couldn't, and I reminded him that the agreement is what it says and what it says only and that if it isn't in there, it's not allowed.
He then pressed the door close button and then grabbed the handle to forcibly pull the door shut (which could break that kind of door) and I rolled my window down and let him know that if he broke my car he would have to pay to have it fixed.
He then proceeded to say "go fuck yourself" to which I said "same to you" and as I was rolling my window up he stood up from his car and spat onto my window. And then sped off with Kendrick in his car not buckled.
At 330, we met to pick Kendrick up and for him to take Avalon and Natus. He refused to put either into his car until we spoke and said I wasn't being reasonable about visits and I explained that it wasn't to the agreement. And offered other solutions for the issue at hand. To which he declined. I noticed at this time that he had two hickies on his neck, and as he was putting our daughter in, I said without thinking first "I hope you're not bringing random girls around our kids"
To which he asked what I had said because he couldn't hear me. I refused to reply and got into my car and shut the doors and went to leave, as I went to exit from the parking lot he sped out and parked his car in front of mine, preventing me from going further and he got out and came over to me. I was immediately on guard and afraid as he had just spat at me hours previous.
I had sent him a text and he was commenting on that because I mentioned what exactly I said to him as I was leaving. And that's what he was confronting me on.
He claimed that I was a horrible mother, that he didn't like me, I was lazy, he did everything for me and I was never grateful that I never cared for the kids. That he never loved me. I commented on how he wouldn't even let me heal from my c section because of an ingrown nail and that I almost bleed out one night and tore my stitches anouther, he claimed he only needed a day to recover and then he'd be fine. But that i refused to give him that (I was five days post surgery) and I gave him 3 weeks. When I mentioned that he never did anything except play games and most of our fights revolved around that he got defensive and started attacking my boyfriend, Gionni, and called him the N word and claimed I was a whore, and that my vagina was nasty.
I barked back at that point and told him that at least my bf knew how to do foreplay unlinke him, he retorted with that I wasn't worth his time and that's why he never did it. I told him he'd be hearing from my lawyer because I was sick of being attacked and he spat on my car, and he claimed that he never did and I have no proof and no one would believe me. Even though I called my lawyer minutes after it happened, and had spit marks on my car.
I had a PTSD and anxiety flare up on my way home. My boyfriend heard a lot of the commotion.
At pick up ay 730, I got out to get the kids and he refused to give me Avalon, until I spoke to him, I refused and said if he needed to he could email me what he'd like tot alk about, otherwise it wasn't worth mentioning. He said no, because whenever I wanted to talk, he always 'had' to. I explained that I had a ptsd flare up and na anxiety attack, on my way home and had multiple over the past week because of him and that I was done talking to him about any of this because my mental health couldn't take it anymore. I explained I did not want him touching my car or talking to me at pick up and drop off anymore, and that if he would like to email me he could. He still refused to give me avalon, but I managed to get her to reach for me and took her from him. He angrily got in his car, made a remark about me being ridiculous. And drove off.
I then texted him saying 'When you dont have the kids, your number is blocked. You are not to touch my car or be near my car at pick up, you are not to talk to me at all. Anything can be done via email or text when you have the kids. That I was done talking I would see him at 130 tomorrow" I then blocked his number so as to not get any kind of a response.
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